Long Distance - will this work out?
Hi, I have been in an long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I believe he has lost some of his love for me, and I lost some for him. I think the distance has grown us apart a little.
On the plus side, through ups and downs, we're still together. Things are ok now, but we're both not as enthused about living together now that the wait is over. Nothing like how the idea was 5 years ago. So, he lives in Boston, I'm in Vancouver. Ideally we would have gotten married so either he could work here, or I could work there. But, marriage never really came up. We see each other every other month, but it's just plain 'ol dating.
SO. I am graduating University and he said he'd fly me over there and help me find a job. Good enough. So, here's a weird detail:
He isn't dumping his roomate until I find a job. SO, basically, we're going to be 3 in his apartment because he wants to save whatever his roomate gives him every month. He makes something like 100K a year.. and he's being so petty over something like $500 a month. Now, he's not really cheap. He bought me a really expensive tennis bracelet, plane tickets, and restaurants. But, this is just illogical. It sounds to me like he doesn't grasp that we're moving in together, permenantly. And, I told him to just dump his roommate and to pay the rent himself as he could afford it.. and he yelled at me "don't tell me what to do with my money". Was I really that demanding with my suggestion? I'm considering not even moving there anymore. He could at least ditch his roommate and act a little more serious.
Cindy