Help! I need to get over him.
I made the mistake of dating this guy that I thought both really sweet, cute. I liked almost everything about him. The reason I call it a mistake is because he's 25 (3 years younger than me) an age that I have taken to be as pure evil for men, he worked with me, he lives about 2 hours away (still with his parents) and
he got out of a 3 year relationship with a (21 yr old) girl who broke up with him 4 months before we started
dating.
Even though I was hesitant at first, we ended up dating and the relationship was great from the start.
We always had a blast together, worked together so we saw each other a lot, we talked everday and every
night and the physical attraction was fantastic. I caught feelings for this guy really fast, as he claimed he did for me. About 2 months into it, however, he tells me he's not over his ex-girlfriend.
We continued to see each other, but I feel like I changed and became totally insecure. I tried to break
up with him, but didn't have the heart. He later decided to break up with me, because he didn't feel it
was fair to me, but insisted we remain friends.
Every time we try to hang out, however, it's totally painful for me and if there's liquor involved we end
up making out or sleeping together. I tried to move on, but every time I feel like I'm making progress he
starts calling or texting and we wind up right back into the confusing mess that we started in. I keep
trying to end it by not seeing or talking to him but its really hard for me because I really like this guy
and we worked together. He says it's hard for him, too because he really likes me, but he's not ready for
a relationship. This just makes me feel worse.
A few weeks after he officially broke up with me I lost my job (about 2 weeks ago). I've sat in my
apartment in the dark for the last 2 days bawling my eyes out. This can't be healthy, but I don't know what
to do. I realize I'm the rebound, and I feel totally pathetic and used, mostly because I knew better but I
took the chance. I'm an attractive intelligent girl, I usually have a lot going for myself (until lately), I don't, however, have lots of friends and family or opportunities for distractions and I live alone. He
on the other hand is total opposite. He's always surrounded by family and friends and always has lots
going on. I've been through break ups before, he and I didn't even date that long, I don't know why it's so
hard for me. I agreed to go out with a new cute guy who asked me out this weekend, I figure it's best, but
I don't want to screw up with this new guy because I'm such a mess over the old guy. Please help. I feel
like such a loser. I don't know what to do. What is a healthy way to get over this guy quickly? We were
only together for about 2 1/2 months! Help!