Help Me - I'm Desperate
Hey guys... I'm desperate.
I was with my girl for a little over a year and everything was peaches and cream and then the troubles began. We graduated college together after living together for half a year, and she offerred me to move into her parent's house while she pursued her masters degree at a nearby University. I graciously accepted this, it was 6 hrs away from our previous college, an hour away from my parents and friends, and the house was situated on 88 acres in the mountains. While living there was a great experience, our relationship got a bit distant... our sex life diminished from all the time to once or twice a month. She got less intimate and rude at times. While I was trying to find my way in life in a completely new area, she was still in school. I moved from job to job and she kept on with the difficulties of earning her masters degree. I admit that I got a bit lazy at times, but I was able to find a job that I was passionate about. So I already had the knowledge that our relationship needed work. She confided this to me in January and asked me to find a new place to live so we could work on things with space between us. March rolled around, I moved into a new place with the idea that we had stuff to work on, but that this space would be good for us. A few days later I spent the nite at her place, and we cuddled in bed a lot (no sex though). A couple days later I called her up saying I was missing her a bit and she said that I should spend the nite and that we could talk the next morning. So same thing, we cuddled at nite... and the next day she asks for a break. She says that her feelings have changed, but that she's not sure as to what. She says that we still should be friends and that she wants me in her life, but that she's just too busy and stressed out with school to be in a relationship. She tells me that I can still spend the nite every now and then, and that she definately loves me and cares for me, but that she's just not sure if she's "in love" with me. A few days later i get invited to her families place for a Birthday brunch for her dad and sister. I later find out that her idea of a break is "permanent for now" and that she still wants to be best friends, but once again that she can't handle being in a relationship right now. But here's where it gets weird... although I've moved out, she's let me borrow her desk, a bunch of books to read, and a dvd player. At the same time, she is allowing me to keep a bunch of stuff up at her house. Every time I've gone to visit her since our break, I still see pictures of us all over her room. So naturally I'm as confused as can be as to what this all means. I thought this was the woman that I would be spending my life with, and up until a couple months ago I thought her mind was in the same place as mine. We're about a month away from our two year anniversary, and all I want to do is get her back. I'm desperate for any advice as to what might have gone wrong, and what I can do to make her want me again. She really is the most incredible woman that I've ever met, and I can't see myself with anyone else. Give me any help you can as I'm desperate.