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How do you get a date to begin with?

How do you get a date to begin with? What if you are not a talkative or are introverted, don't make friends, have no kind of network whatsoever, and don't know how. It hurts to read your articles because all this seems so impossible to me. How is it that you do these things? Knowing people , meeting people , whatever it is. How?

Sad and Lonely

Sophie's advice

Sad and lonely is no way to go through life. If you have no network, and no friends and don't know how to make them, it's time to take the bull by the horns and learn how. You don't want to be in this same situation a year from now, so you must make changes today to change your future. A lot of people are introverted, but still have friends. Are you not talkative because you feel you have nothing to say? If that's the case, you really need to assess all the things that are interesting about yourself and focus on those, as well as create new and interesting experiences. If it's because you're shy, then only practice will improve that. You need to gently force yourself to go out there and mingle with the rest of the world. Choose a class in something you are interested in and make sure you converse with the others in your class. Take up a sport. Another effective method of meeting people is speed dating. Use it as a training ground. At a event for instance, you will meet 25 singles. You will talk to each one of them for 3 minutes. You will get lots of practice on how to most effectively communicate. The more you practice, the easier it will become.
All these things might seem daunting to you right now, but remember feeling sad and lonely is not how you should be spending your life. You have a choice to make and it is up to you to do what you need to do.

Mark's advice

Okay Sad.
Is it okay if I call you Sad? Or do you prefer Sir Lonely, or Lady Lonely? You never did mentioned your gender.
I can't believe you're actually asking this question. If we hitch a ride on the Way-Back Machine with Sherman and Mr. Peabody back to the 70's, (Oh, I loved that cartoon. You know, the talking dog and that four-eyed freckle face kid from the Bullwinkle Show) you might find getting a date a challenge. You had to hang out in some smoke filled bar till one in the morning, hoping someone was drunk enough to take you home.
Now fast-forward to the golden age of the internet. There are so many single people floating around on the web, it's like fishing with dynamite. If you're looking for a million quick dates, there are plenty of free dating sites on the internet. Just log on, and you can have a date lined up by tonight. If you need someone to hold your hand, do the
introductions, or are looking for someone to help you meet that perfect match, there are plenty of those dating sites on the net as well, including this web-site's sister site: (Not that I'm giving them a plug or anything like that). There are a boat load of people out there right now just waiting for someone (like you) to seek them out. You have to make the effort, because this boat load of people are not waiting for you as you swing your grocery cart into the produce isle. They're waiting for you on the internet. Log on and start casting.

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