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I Can't Trust My Friends Anymore

Me and my girlfriend just split up but we are still friends. The other day she says to me that she likes my mate and my mate likes her as well. But I still like her and now I feel alone, and I can't trust my friends anymore.


Mark's advice

Dude, you have my sympathy.
Nothing worse than an "ex" you still care about dating one of your friends. That bites. That's of course, if she did 50% or more of the breaking up. If you're the one who was mostly responsible, then you really have nothing to wine about, but for the sake of argument, let's say it was more her idea. In that case I would tell your mate: "Hey, I'm not telling you what to do. If you want to go out with my ex-girlfriend, it's up to you. Just don't expect me to hang around anymore, because seeing you two together is not going to do me any good. Later bud". Other than that, there's nothing you can do. Maybe he'll dump your ex, to stay friends, and then again, maybe not.
Leave it at that and see what happens.

Sophie's advice

This is a tough situation. The good news is that your ex decided to tell you what was going on instead of keeping it from you. As for your mate, have you had a conversation about this with him? It may be that this just happened (as these things sometimes do), and he is afraid to talk to you about it. If things didn't work out with your ex, they didn't work out for a reason. It's understandable that you feel lonely, and only time will help this. Your ex has clearly moved on, so it's time that you start moving on to. Maybe it's time to find some other friends, and another group to hang out with that doesn't involve either your ex or your mate. Hang in there, things will get better if you just give them some time.

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