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I Know I Love Him But Not Sure If I'm In Love With Him...

I have been married for 10 years to a wonderful man, but I feel that I need some time and space. I want to move out and seperate to see if we can find our way back to each other. He says that will never happen, that I will never come back. I do not feel that is the case. I know that I love him but not sure if I am in love with him. Can you help me?

Can You Help Me?

Wendy's advice

This is a situation where I feel that some professional help is in order. I'd suggest you begin marriage counselling together as soon as you can, and don't make any rash decisions before this happens. Obviously something has changed with you and you need to pinpoint what that change is, why it's affecting your feelings for your husband and how you can reconcile it with your current situation, or if you even want to. I'm not getting the impression that you have a very clear understanding of what you're feeling or why. If this is the case, moving out and trying to "find your way back to each other" with no analysis of why you even feel the way you do is a recipe for disaster. You're not playing a survival game at summer camp. It's real life, and the marriage you've committed 10 years of your life to is at stake. Your decisions need to be well-informed and grounded, and a professional marriage counsellor can help you ensure that they are. Good luck.

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