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I Miss My Friends!

I lived in a really great place. I had the best friends ever and everyone
was nice to each other and I was never sad or lonely. I was an A+ student and was so happy with my life. When I was going to move to middle school, my parents told me that we were going to move to the other side of the world. Everything there was so different. You go to school every day and have to stand up for yourself. You don't, people call you names and make fun of you. You have no real friends, everyone seems to be fighting to get up the chart. I am really depressed. My friends in my old town are keeping in touch as much as they can, but I miss them so much. I love my parents and my siblings sooo much too. They mean the world to me, but it has been three years and I don't know how much longer I can take this. I have already tried to look into student exchange programs, but I don't know how to break it to my parents. I want to be with them but I also want to be in a place where I can be happy to live in. Please write quickly!

Where To Go?

Erin's advice

Dear Where to go,
It sounds like you're having a real tough time. Change is difficult for all of us, because it forces us to adapt to new situations and takes us out of our comfort zones. The great thing about change though, is that it forces us to grow and really learn what we're made of! The problems arise though, when we constantly compare what we had, to what we actually have. Life for you is not the same anymore, and you have to come to terms with that fact that it never will be again. This does not at all mean that it will never be as good, only that it's different. Start by focusing on the good things in your life and be thankful for what you have in this moment. Try to keep it in perspective and realize that so many people aren't as lucky as you are! You have a wonderful family, and the fact that you still keep in touch with your past friends after all this time is quite an amazing accomplishment. It's going to continue to be hard to make "real" friends as long as you're staying in the past. You were lucky enough to experience real and true friendship in your hometown, so it's up to you to reach out and teach others what real friendship is all about where you are now. Make a real effort and you'll see that positive things will happen. That said, maybe a compromise is in order, and you could talk to your parents about spending some time with your old friends - maybe in the summer? Remember that leaving for a long period of time will also make it more difficult to come back to "real life" in the end. Try to embrace what you have, and definitely include your parents in your thoughts and emotions - it sounds like they care very much for you and would want to know how you're feeling. Remember also that your family moved for a reason, your parents made a decision on what they felt was best in terms of your family as a whole, even if it doesn't seem like it right now.

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