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My Husband's Porn is Ruining our Marriage!

A few months ago I discovered that my husband had superimposed a head shot of my sister onto a porn picture. I confronted him and we had a long discussion. He said it wouldn't happen again and it didn't mean anything. Shortly after I found a semi-naked picture of my sister in with his porn magazines. (It was a picture that came from her wedding and she had put on my computer when making a CD and hadn't deleted all of her pictures.) I am not a fan of pornography and he thinks it is perfectly normal. I don't feel like I can trust him any more and we've talked a lot about it. I know he still downloads videos and I find myself going around the house looking for any more pictures he may have. This is eating me up and I don't know what to do.........

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Wendy's advice

Your husband's interest in porn is clearly causing problems between you, but he continues to do it, which tells me there's a danger that he may be addicted. He needs to address the issue with someone trained to deal with this. The situation with your sister is disturbing you, and rightfully so. Make no mistake, she is being violated, and by someone who is supposed to be family. It's disrespectful to you and to her, to say the least. Seek counselling for both you and your husband immediately.

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